THE ART OF SELF-CARE ON THE LEAD UP TO CHRISTMAS

The countdown to Christmas is officially on

For many of us, the festive season brings a mix of joy, chaos, and the ever-present pressure to make everything perfect. Whether you’re juggling work deadlines, managing family expectations, or simply trying to survive the sensory overload of flashing lights and endless carols, it’s easy to lose sight of your own needs during this time of year.

But here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential, especially as December unfolds with all its merry madness. So, let’s talk about how you can protect your mental health and embrace some truly restorative moments in the lead-up to Christmas.

1. Say No (Without Guilt)

December often comes with an avalanche of social invitations, from office parties to school nativity plays and everything in between. While it’s lovely to celebrate, it’s okay to decline if your schedule—or your energy levels—can’t handle another mince pie-fuelled gathering.

Set boundaries early. You don’t need to explain yourself. A simple, “I won’t be able to make it, but thank you for thinking of me,” is enough. Protecting your time is one of the greatest acts of self-care you can practise.

I was well into my thirties by the time I realised that it really was ok to say no. My Christmas period was ridiculously over-booked. My husband and I would go from house to house from the 24th December, through to the 31st December. I would then spend the following week with a case of what I call ‘Christmas flu’, when you are so exhausted that your body shuts down. I am now comfortable saying no and scheduling quiet days (see below).

2. Plan for Quiet Moments

Between the whirlwind of gift-buying and the endless to-do lists, carve out intentional moments of quiet. Light a candle, make a cup of tea, and spend 10 minutes reading, journaling, or simply sitting in silence.

Think of these pauses as pit stops for your soul. They’re not just indulgences; they’re necessities to recharge your mind and body.

3. Prioritise Sleep

Late-night wrapping sessions and early-morning shopping sprees can wreak havoc on your sleep schedule. But skimping on rest makes everything feel harder—your patience wears thin, and even small tasks become overwhelming.

Stick to a consistent bedtime as much as possible. Invest in earplugs, blackout curtains, or a lavender pillow spray to create a calm sleeping environment. You’ll thank yourself when you wake up feeling refreshed instead of frazzled.

4. Don’t Let Perfectionism Steal Your Joy

The pressure to make Christmas magical—especially if you have children—can be immense. But remember, it’s the simple moments that matter most: a shared laugh, a quiet cuddle by the tree, or the look of delight on someone’s face as they unwrap a thoughtful gift.

Let go of the idea that everything has to be Instagram-perfect.

The slightly wonky gingerbread house or mismatched wrapping paper will still be cherished by those who love you. This is definitely one of the biggest pressures I put on myself and contributes to the so called ‘Christmas flu’.

Check out my post on ‘The Quiet Burden’ about the invisible labour of women, often due to wanting to meet society’s expectations of women.

5. Nourish Yourself (Without Judgment)

The season of indulgence is also, ironically, the time when diet culture ramps up its messaging. Ignore it. Eat the mince pies, enjoy the Christmas pudding, and sip that mulled wine—without guilt.

But also, pay attention to how your body feels. Balance festive treats with nourishing meals, drink plenty of water, and don’t skip meals in the rush to tick everything off your list.

6. Move in Ways That Feel Good

Exercise doesn’t have to mean hitting the gym in December. It can be a walk in the crisp winter air, a kitchen dance party to your favourite Christmas playlist, or a gentle yoga session by the tree. Get the kids involved!

Movement is a powerful way to manage stress and boost your mood. Find what works for you and make it part of your routine.

7. Remember: It’s Ok to Ask for Help

If the lead-up to Christmas feels overwhelming, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. This might mean asking a friend to help with shopping, delegating tasks to family members, or even chatting with a therapist if you’re struggling emotionally.

You’re not meant to do it all alone. Lean on your support system—people want to help, and you deserve that kindness. As far as I am concerned, this is the heart of Christmas, the people we share it with.

8. Focus on What Truly Matters

At its core, Christmas isn’t about perfect decorations or extravagant gifts. It’s about connection, love, and creating memories. Practice the act of gratitude. Take time to reflect on what truly matters to you this season, and let go of the rest.

The magic of Christmas doesn’t come from doing more; it comes from being present.

The festive season can be beautiful, but it’s also a time that can easily drain us if we’re not mindful. By prioritising self-care, you give yourself the gift of balance, peace, and a chance to actually enjoy this special time of year.

So, take a deep breath, let go of the pressure to be everything to everyone, and remember—you are worthy of care, rest, and joy, not just at Christmas but all year round.